Author Archives: Tom Nees

How Well Do We Handle Adversity?

I’ve been thinking a lot about that question having recently read Option B: Facing Adversity, Building Resilience, and Finding Joy by Sheryl Sandburg, CEO of Facebook and Adam Grant, a best-selling author and psychologist at Warton. It may be because … Continue reading

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The Problem with Empathy

A few days after reading Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion, by Yale psychologist Paul Bloom, I was stopped in Washington, D.C., traffic.  A disheveled, crippled man made his way between the traffic lanes past my car with a hand-written … Continue reading

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On Nurturing Our Networks

A life-long friend called last week because he had not heard from me in more than a month. Given our ages, (this is my 80th year – more about that later) he was concerned that perhaps something unfortunate had happened … Continue reading

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How Optimistic Are You For 2017?

I’ve been listening to conversations and asking the question. Some are cautiously optimistic; others pessimistic, a few seem to be hunkering down waiting for the apocalypse. Late in 2016, Thomas Friedman published his most extensive book yet – Thank You … Continue reading

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Howard Thurman’s Christmas

I’m struggling to find The Mood of Christmas that Howard Thurman (1899-1981), the prominent African American author, theologian, educator, and civil rights leader, wrote about in 1973.    The election turmoil with its uncertain aftermath makes it difficult to focus on … Continue reading

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Election Fears and Hopes

Two days after the election I joined with a group of friends, men and women, in Washington, D.C., to discuss our fears and hopes.  We were more interested in listening to one another than arguing about the uncertain future.  And … Continue reading

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Intelligent Disobedience – Learning From Guide Dogs

In Ira Chaleff’s 2015 book Intelligent Disobedience: Doing Right When What You’re Told To Do Is Wrong, ‘intelligent disobedience’ in guide dogs is a metaphor for an important but often overlooked behavior pattern for humans. A guide dog trainer told … Continue reading

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Living and Leading in a Tribal Way

We live in a country ‘at war with itself’ writes war correspondent Sebastian Junger in  Tribe: On Homecoming and Belonging. The battle lines are everywhere—political gridlock and the most divisive presidential campaign in modern times, the widening wealth gap, worsening … Continue reading

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‘The Poor Who Love Trump’

If you don’t have time to read the Hillbilly Elegy: A Memoir of a Family and Culture in Crisis, I recommend Jennifer Senior’s NY Times review of J. D. Vance’s new bestseller – ‘A Compassionate Analysis of the Poor Who Love … Continue reading

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“Can We All Just Get Along?” — Rodney King

69 percent of Americans say that race relations are bad and getting worse according to a New York Times/CBS News poll taken immediately after the killing of five Dallas police officers.   The headline read, we “Hold a Grim View of … Continue reading

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